Forgive and move on! (1)

That day I was with my adorable hyperactive nephew. They were trying to demonstrate their 'materials arts' skill which they have acquired from free  lesson, courtesy of Ultraman, Power rangers SPD, Ninja Turtles, Ben10, and the many other violent 'fake superhero gurus' that they find on the cable's cartoon channels.

While enthusiastically and willingly using each other as opponents- they kicked, wrestled, jumped, punched, pinned and joint- locked themselves with heads, hands, and legs intertwined, much to my dismay.

I told myself, not to worry to much. Boys being boys, I can't expect them to play with the Barbie dolls and play house that I bought for their sister. Can i?

More importantly! I know for sure that 95% of the time they would miss their 'targets'.

Yup..for them it's like 'Let Me Kick Your Mr Air' rather then 'Let Me Punch This Enemy Who Somehow Look Exactly Like My Brother' kind of thing. Alhamdulillah for their impressive reflexes.

Nevertheless there s always 5%  chance that worries me. The probability that their materials art demonstrations turn ugly.

And that day , this 5% is happened. Within few blinks, both boys were tears. Of course, instantaneously, both ‘warriors’ suddenly turned ‘lawyers’ with tears streaming down their chubby cute cheeks, they pleaded their case in front of the grand jury and judge – ME!

Moment like this made me wish I had CCTV to help me out. Seriously! However, believing they are always to side to a coin, I decided to kiss boss injured ‘combatants’ of their wounds, and I made them apologize to each other.

I remember this quote by Dan Heist, who says:

“when you realize you’ve made mistake, make me amends immediately. It’s easier to eat crow while it’s still warm”

Crow?? Eee Yucks!! I have tell you that I am not too sure why Dan used crow as an example. I mean, who on earth eats crow, right? The thought of it could easily make us nauseated. But then again, that’s not the point here. The point is this. He is right, don’t you think? Totally!

So, while the crow was still warm (please…), I made my two ‘lawyers’ apologize. Shake hands and give each other big loving hugs. Within seconds they were back into becoming kungfu Panda wannabes, chasing one another, running and giggling, ever so happily.

Alhamdulillah…phew…

As I watched they them continuing their brutal ‘air-attacks’, I couldn’t help but reflect on what had just happened.

My nephew had just taught me a few wonderful happen lesson of life.

Not only that they easily accept each other’s apology, they also very quickly bounce back and reconnect almost immediately.

I wonder, how many of us are able to do that? My brothers and sisters? How many of us, after being hurts by someone else, swiftly spring back to life and becomes friends again with that person, instead of sulking and building up resentment and anger towards them?

And not only that, I also realized that after saying how sorry they were for hitting one another, they didn’t ever bother to remember and retain the memory of who made mistake, who started it and who was at fault. They simply just don’t!

To them an apology is an apology and they start anew. They hit the reset button and all old memories are gone forever. And they did so multiple times too – over and over and over and over and over and over and over again, just like what millionaire Mind T.Harv Eker loved to say!

Aren’t children just fantastic little being with such big hearts?

If only we adults were capable of being gracious-apologize, say sorry, forgive, kiss and make up then, most importantly, press our reset buttons! If only we could have such an attitude, don’t u think our world would be a much better place to live in; such a mush simpler one too?

 There is this one saying which I really love because it has given me excellent way of looking at things; it has humble me and made me realize position as human being. Not that I think I am from Venus or something.

It was said that Prophet Jesus (peace be upon him), son of Lady Mary once said:

“…Do not look at the wrong action of people as if you were lords. Look your wrong actions as if you were slaves…”

Isn’t the powerfull remember? That is so true, right? We are advised not to look at the faults of other as we are perfect, as if we have never done anything wrong, as if we are the supreme one.

Well, are we? Of course not right? So if were actually acknowledge that we are not perfect, doesn’t  thet mean that we have our own share of mistakes too? And if we know that we have our own share of mistakes (that need to be forgiven by others), then why don’t we forgives others when they ask for it? Why don’t we think so snootly that the people who have hurts us in any way don’t deserve to be forgiven by us? Do we like it when someone refuses to forgive us for mistakes we did? And do we dare to live in this world and not be forgiven by others for the mistakes we have done to them, my friends?? 

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Cik chinbi~